Now hold on! I know you're offended if you just happen to be an African American girl or woman reading this, and are maybe even feeling pretty guilty if you know in fact that you have been called "crazy",a time or two but I promise you that these words are not my own. These were said by a friend of mine who happens to be white. He was explaining to me and a few other co-workers why he hadn't and would never date a black girl-That they were loud + obnoxious = crazy. I have to admit, I did get defensive at first, but then chalked it up to him being biased to the images he'd seen on tv or even of a couple of ignorant black women/girls who had been a bad representation of us and had just given us a bad rep in his eyes. OR I could just look at myself and my outgoing ways and louder than usual mouth that did not always adhere to the "inside voice" rules. I was most of the time opinionated and straitfoward about alot of things.But that did not mean I was crazy,though, did it?
Next, another guy stated all girls can be kinda crazy. I acknowledged and appreciated that he was saying that all kinds (races) of girls can be this way and not just black girls. However, when taking a second to really think about the reasons why some guys feel the need to call girls that , most times our actions and person don't even fit that description at all.Me, myself have found that when a girl doesn't take or fall for the "okey doke", questions more than just "goes along" , she is deemed "not chill" or "too much". I could agree but that just shows that girls are not boys. Simply put. We do not know how to not care about another individual or not look a bit deeper into a situation than we should. Its in our nature. If we feel that we are being done wrong in any way,its just our right to feel disappointed or ask why. But when a guy is not feeling like the guy in the relationship/situation anymore or feeling controlled, then that's when they don't feel like the "guy " anymore and that you're the crazy girl. Basically a crazy girl is a girl that doesn't take any bs and can't seem to be controlled or gotten over on. As for the girls who bust windows out of cars, are physically abusive or just mean for no reason, you're definitely crazy if not just plain wrong ,and I can't speak for you ! #butimjustsayin that now thanks to men, there are clearly 2 if not more very different definitions of the word- and since black girls can for sure be very strong confident and intolerant of BS, I guess we can be "crazy" too!
- okey doke :someone whose been tricked or duped
- crazy: Mentally deranged, esp. as manifested in a wild or aggressive way < ha! SO offensive.